In loving memory of my father
John Adam "Dutsy" Wakenshaw
March 31, 1942 - May 7, 2011
How does a son write a
memorial to his Dad? I wish I knew because I need to write one now, and
I don't know where to start. He was my Dad. What else do I say? There
is an emptiness in my life right now. A part of me is gone. But I
have filled that emptiness with so many memories. The things he taught
me, the lessons I learned, and the good times we had, will always be
with me forever. I'll remember the guy who taught me to drive. We used
to go to KG-9 and get a big box of fried chicken livers to go. Then he
would
let me drive the whole length of the tow path in that old Toyota pickem
up truck that said "Mark Wakenshaw & Dad" on the side. I remember
the guy who taught me how to use tools. There was always a project in
the shop for us to work on. I remember learning to play the trumpet and
how he always wanted to hear some Burt Bacharach music. I'll never
listen to the soundtrack of Butch
Cassidy & The Sundance Kid without thinking of Dad. It was
our favorite movie and he so loved that music. I remember the exact
post under the gazebo where we buried the 1889 silver dollar that
belonged to my Great-Grandpa Sanders. Dad and I have kept that secret
for 40 years. And I remember the day I soloed an airplane and how
disappointed he was that he wasn't there to watch.
So many things we did for so many years and still there wasn't time to
do them all. He was always dreaming of things he wanted to do and
places he wanted to go. We'd talk about how we would do stuff if we
could, or how cool it would be to have one of those things, or how fun
it would be to go see that. And later in life when we both got
computers, we had the time of our life. We had the world at our
fingertips and we would always find the neatest stuff to share with
each other. But the computers also drew us so much closer over the
years. Living so far apart made emails so wonderful. We both loved to
write, so we had the greatest time exchanging long drawn out messages.
I think we solved over half the world's problems in those emails.
Dad may be gone, but he lives on in me with the memories I have of him
and the memories we all shared together as a family. He was a big part
of my life. I'll miss that bond we had as father and son. His only son
and his best friend. My life will never be the same again, but I know
I'll be fine. Last year a beautiful angel was sent to watch over me.
After years of living alone, God knew I would be needing someone after
Dad was gone. Someone to fill that emptiness. She was sent into my life
at just the right time. And although Dad never got to meet my angel, it
gave him peace knowing
she was here, and he wouldn't have to worry about me when he
was gone.
On the night he passed away I saw the most beautiful
sunset. There were
some clouds above the horizon and for a while it looked as if we
weren't
going to see the sunset. But at the last minute the sun broke from
under the clouds and came down to touch the water. And as it went over
the horizon and out of sight I just knew it was
Dad saying good bye. But like the sun, even
though I can no longer see him, he will always be there for me. He may
not be able to talk to me, but I can still talk to him. So as I sit
here on this Father's Day 2011, I just want to say thank
you Dad. Thank you for being "MY" Dad. I miss you and I love you so
much.
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First
time
here?......Welcome to my family!!
A
short
introduction to Mark's Family Tree, and what this web site is all about.
PLEASE read this if
you have never
been here before...
Welcome! I hope you
enjoy browsing
these pages as much as I have enjoyed gathering the information. Here's
how my
web site works... Begin your travels by finding your family name on the
Surname page. Or if you prefer,
the Index
A-Z pages lists
EVERYONE, name by name. Find your name
and
go from there if you like. When you get where you're going, click on
the
underlined names to read more about that person on another page. If
there is a little camera icon next
to that person's
name, you can click on it to see pictures on a
separate
page.
Also take note of any numbers in brackets, like this - [346].
You can click on these numbers to see the source(s) used for the
information
you
are reading.
If you are a
member of this
family and are NOT listed on this site, please contact
me! I
would love to
hear from you, and would be happy to include
your name in my little tree. Any other thoughts, suggestions,
contributions,
corrections, complaints, etc... can also be directed to me at the
addresses
below.
I began this
"hobby" of mine
in May of 2001. I never dreamed it would have come so far so soon. My
"hobby" has turned into a full blown "career". It's been a lot of hard
work, but I've loved every minute of it. I have met many new cousins
on the internet and in person, and have been fascinated by their
stories. And the
many
old family photos that have crossed my desk have been just great. I
thank
you all for entrusting me with your collections while I scanned them.
I want to thank
everyone in
this family for lending an ear to my many questions. Without your
input,
none of this would have been possible. It has been my goal to let
future
generations know about us. Who we are, what we did, and where we came
from.
Memories never die, but some do fade away. Thanks for helping me keep
them
alive and well. What a great family we have!
Family
Morphs
If you don't know what a "morph"
is, then you'll just have to click on
one of the links below. I have some new software that I've been having
fun with. I've taken some old family photos and used just the faces to
morph through the generations from old to new. My first attempt at this
was to start with my great-grandpa Wakenshaw and change him into my
grandpa Wakenshaw, and then my dad and then to me. It came out so good
I decided to make some more showing the women in the family. Starting
with my great-great grandmother, and her daughter and her daughter and
her daughter, right on down the line. Some of the facial features are
kind of spooky as you watch the faces morph into their offspring. Some
of us really do look alike! As you click on the links below, give them
a few moments to load. A short animation will start after the file has
loaded in your browser.
WAKENSHAW
- 115 YEARS
John Thomas Wakenshaw -->
Adam Forsyth Wakenshaw --> John Adam
Wakenshaw --> Mark Wakenshaw
MY SISTER AND HER MOTHER
AND GRANDMOTHERS (five generations)
Isabelle Scherrer --> Alva
Opal Howell --> Marjorie Juanita Fink
--> Connie Jane Ivey --> Ivey Wakenshaw
MY
AUNT JEAN AND HER MOTHER AND
GRANDMOTHERS (four generations)
Isabelle Scherrer --> Alva
Opal Howell --> Marjorie Juanita Fink
--> Hilma Jean Ivey
MY
MOM AND HER GRANDMOTHER (could
be twins?)
Hilma Marie Carlson -->
Connie Jane Ivey
MY
GRANDPA IVEY AND MY AUNT JEAN
Elmer Earl "Bill" Ivey -->
Hilma Jean Ivey
Mark's Family Tree Reunion
held on
September 15-16 2005
(note: photo pages are
large.... please allow time for them to load)
I left this information on the web
site for all those who want to see the photos from the reunion. This
part of my site still gets many hits, so I didn't want to remove it
just yet. There will probably never be another reunion like this one,
as it was a major undertaking for me and I don't know if I could pull
it off again.
We had just over 90 people
for the dinner on Thursday night, and over 65 for the picnic on the
lake Friday afternoon. It was a dream come true for me to have you all
together at one time. I only wish we could have stayed longer, as I
didn't get to visit with some of you as much as I would have liked. I couldn't have been happier with
the large turnout, and
I want to thank all of those who attended.
The reunion dinner was
held at the Route 66 Hotel &
Conference Center in Springfield, Illinois.
I want to thank Marc Evans and his staff at
the hotel for helping me set this whole thing up. As I found out,
planning a large gathering is not as easy as it seems. Here are some photos of the
hotel and the sign out front welcoming Mark's Family Tree.
I also want
to thank all my little helpers... My dad, who helped me hang up the
family tree charts in the banquet room, and my grandma who told us when
we got them straight! My mom, her friend Phyllis Knapp, and my sister,
Ivey, who worked the sign-in table and got everyone their name tags.
Also, thanks to cousin Barbara Ann Reichert for bringing the three
birthday
girls
their cake & corsages. And a very special thanks to William Earl
Pike for his kind
words and Grace before our meal. He did a real fine job on very short
notice.
Besides the family
reunion, we also celebrated the 90th birthdays of my
grandma, Beatrice Sanders Wakenshaw, and my great-aunt, Norma Williams
Ivey. Both of these ladies were born on the same day of the same year.
A dear friend of
the Ivey family, Dorothy Housholder, was also in attendance and
celebrating
her 90th birthday that same weekend.
As much as I hate speaking
in front of large crowds, I did give a small welcome
speech after dinner. Then much
to my surprise, my dad presented me
with an engraved silver platter from the family for my efforts in
getting the reunion together. Thank you all for that special gift. The
rest of the evening was spent talking & visiting, taking lots of
pictures and watching the slide show of old family photos I made.
Here are some
photos from the dinner.
On Friday afternoon we had
our picnic lunch out at Lake Springfield.
The weather was just perfect. Thanks to the folks at CWLP
for the
free use of the Tom Madonia East Park. We had the whole place to
ourselves. Thanks also to the KFC on 6th Street for catering the meal
and delivering it to the park. A good time was had by all. The kids
enjoyed a free run of the park and playing on the dock trying to catch
fish. While us "old folks" enjoyed just sitting and talking. Here are some
photos of the picnic. All in all, I couldn't
have asked for the whole event to turn out any
better. It's been something I've wanted to do for a long time. Thank
you all again for coming to the party and I hope you enjoyed it half as
much as I did.
A few weeks after I
returned home I received a box in the mail from my
sister, Ivey. In the box was a photo album and the words "Mark's Family
Tree Reunion. September 15-16 2005" engraved on the front cover. Inside
the album were pictures from the reunion dinner and picnic. Along with
the photos in the album were all the thank you notes you all wrote to
me during the dinner. I was really touched by reading them and had no
idea this was going on "behind my back" during the dinner. Thank you
all so much for your kind words. I am proud and honored to have you all
for my family.
Family
Tree Charts
These
are the charts that were on the
walls during the family reunion in 2005.
WARNING:
They are rather large picture
files, so be patient. They will take time
to load...
WAKENSHAW CHART
IVEY CHART
SANDERS CHART
FINK CHART
If you would like a
smaller chart of just your family, or any family for that matter, just
drop me a line and I will make you one from the info I have on file. It
is fairly easy for me to do, and I can email it to you in .JPEG form so
you can save it and print it out. Just remember that the more
generations there are, the larger the chart will be. So if you want to
be able to print it on one piece of paper, then keep your requests to a
minimum. A fan shaped chart will cover about five generations, and fit
on one page. The boxed charts like I have above will only fit a few
generations on one page, depending on family size. Email me for further
details.